Thursday, January 31, 2008

Elmer....Pa


My grandfather passed away on Tuesday night after a long and hard fight with cancer. He will be dearly missed by many, but he is no longer suffering. Send love and prayers my Nana's way as she grieves.

Derek and I are thankful for all the time we had to spend with him these past couple years. Jimmy, Jenna and I were lucky to have such caring and involved grandparents around so often as we grew up - I wish I had more pictures to show.



Dancing with his "favorite" grand-daughter!!!
Spinning his bride!

Before Jenna and Trey's wedding

With Jimmy this past October


At the big anniversary party in 2004


What are you looking at?


The silent observer - wait! He was rarely silent.


On the lake



Kenya as of today....

The December poll dispute in Kenya has now left more than 850 dead and over 350,000 (according to some sources) displaced in one month. Do you know what is going on? Hundreds of thousands of innocent people have been forced to leave their homes and are now living in dangerous and unhealty situations. Check out the bottom of this page for a live stream....

" Kenyan security forces have a duty to rein in criminal violence and should protect people, but they shouldn’t turn their weapons on peaceful protestors. The government should make it very clear that police will be held to account for using lethal force against people for simply expressing political views. "

Check out what the Human Rights Watch has to say about the events here.


Time line:

Dec 27 2007 - Voters go to the polls to elect a new president and parliament.

Dec 30 - The Electoral Commission declares President Mwai Kibaki winner of the presidential election - a result that is disputed by the opposition Orange Democratic Movement. The ODM wins most seats in the simultaneous parliamentary election.

Jan 1 2008 - A mob sets fire to a church in the Rift Valley, killing about 30 villagers from Kibaki’s Kikuyu tribe.

Jan 2 - The government accuses backers of opposition leader Ralia Odinga of ”ethnic cleansing” as the death toll from tribal violence rises.

Jan 4 - Mr Kibaki says he will accept a re-run of the disputed election if a court orders it. The United Nations says the unrest has uprooted 250,000 people.

Jan 5 - Mr Kibaki says he is ready to form a government of national unity, but the opposition rejects the offer.

Jan 7 - Mr Odinga calls off planned protests after meeting US envoy Jendayi Frazer.

Jan 8 - Mr Kibaki announces 17 ministers for his new cabinet. Protesters respond by building and burning barricades in Mr Odinga’s western stronghold, Kisumu.

-- John Kufuor, African Union chairman and president of Ghana, arrives in Nairobi to mediate.

Jan 10 - Kufuor leaves Kenya saying both sides have agreed to work together with an African panel headed by former UN Secretary-General Kofi Annan. Kibaki and Odinga, amid recriminations, have not met or agreed how to end the crisis.

Jan 11 - The ODM calls for sanctions against Kibaki.

Jan 15 - Parliament is convened and the opposition wins the post of speaker.

Jan 16 - Police fight hundreds of protesters throughout the country, as the opposition defies a ban on rallies.

Jan 17 - In Nairobi and the western towns of Kisumu and Eldoret, police fire teargas and bullets during rallies called by the opposition but banned by police.

Jan 22 - Ex-UN chief Kofi Annan arrives in Kenya to mediate.

Jan 24 - Mr Kibaki and Mr Odinga meet in a breakthrough brokered by Annan.

Jan 25 - Mr Annan denounces ”gross and systematic” human rights abuses in Kenya after continuing post-election violence.

Jan 28 - At least 64 people are killed in four days of ethnic fighting in the Rift Valley towns of Nakuru and Naivasha. An opposition MP Melitus Were is gunned down outside his home in Nairobi, triggering more rioting and ethnic killings.

Jan 29 - Mr Annan launches formal mediation between the government and ODM, each side represented by a team of three - a mix of moderates and hardliners.

Jan 31 - ODM MP David Kimutai Too is killed, along with a woman, in the Rift Valley town of Eldoret. Kibaki flies to Ethiopia for a summit of the 53-nation African Union. UN chief Ban Ki-moon warns the summit Kenya is threatened with catastrophe and says he will travel to Nairobi on Friday to try to help Annan.

Source: Reuters

Thursday, January 24, 2008

What a Jerk....

So on Tuesday some lame jerk broke into our car and stole the stereo. The stereo probably got him a quick $20, but he (I am sure it was a man) left us with a broken window in the middle of winter in Denver and a cracked dashboard to deal with. So, feel bad for us, but not that bad - it is a basic cost of living in cities I suppose and we could have and should have taken the detachable face off. The window is already fixed - Derek is so very efficient, but it looks like we will be making our own music for a least a little bit longer. I guess I have bad luck when it comes to car stereos because, even though I never have nice equipment, I have had a car broken into three times and an attempted break-in another time. Jerks!

That is all that is really new as of tonight. School is a lot of work but I am really enjoying being back at it. Derek is doing great and trying to spend this free time before he starts school painting. Oh here's a good one for you: Yesterday when the autoglass guy came by to fix the window Derek locked himself out (I've done it a few times already, but this was his first time). He didn't have keys to move the car so the guy had to wait while Derek called our landlord to ask him to come unlock the door. 45 minutes later he called our landlord back to see what the hold up was and the guy said he wasn't able to come, but that Derek (in his slippers and no coat in 15 degree weather) could walk over there or wait an hour or so!!!! Funny that when Derek called him he didn't mention that "be right there" really meant "no I can't come right now." So, the autoglass guy left and Derek broke in the bathroom window and then the autoglass guy came back and then everything worked out in the end.

Playing in the Snow with the Rockhills (and Rita)

Cortney and Jason and their friend Rita from Birmingham came out to Denver last week. We spent their first night having fun in Denver and then they headed up to the Mountains the next day. We met them up there for a day of skiing and some good wholesome catchphrase over the weekend. We had a great time.








Thursday, January 17, 2008

“Each time a person stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring, these ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.” Robert Kennedy

Monday, January 14, 2008

Must Leaders be Saintlike?

From James O'Toole writer of the Executive Compass:

Effective leadership of change almost always begins with commitment by leaders to the moral principle of respect for followers. Granted, to predicate a theory of leadership on a moral foundation is to risk confusion with the current, trendy concern with individual “virtue” or “character.” Without question, the leader’s relationship with followers must be a moral one, but that does not mean that only leaders who are Christ-like in their private lives can be effective. In fact, a review of any list of great leaders will reveal that almost all were flawed human beings with notable private failings. The practical problem with the current wisdom that “private behavior predicts public behavior” is the simple fact that in the lives of most men and women there is a least one act that if made public would disqualify them from positions of leadership. If we insist on perfection of character, we are unlikely to find many exemplary leaders, and our analysis will end in despair.

In the late nineteenth century, the people of Ireland made the terrible mistake of confusing private with public morality. In 1889 Charles Stewart Parnell, arguably his country’s greatest leader, had succeeded in the British parliament to create the conditions necessary to win Home Rule for Ireland. As his country stood on the brink of freedom from British domination, it was revealed that Parnell was involved in an adulterous relationship with the woman he would subsequently marry. The Irish responded to the news by rejecting totally the legitimacy of Parnell’s leadership. By thus insisting that their leaders be saintlike in their private lives, the Irish lost the opportunity for freedom, an opportunity that did not arise again until the next century.

Leaders must always keep faith with their people: they must never lie to their followers or break the laws they are charged with upholding. In all dimensions, their public lives must meet the strictest standards of morality. But distinctions need to be made: a great senator is no less great as a leader if he is occasionally drunk at home over dinner, for that is a private matter; a senator who takes the smallest bribe is an unworthy leader regardless of anything else, because that is a public matter. Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt were great leaders because they were true to the citizens of America—even though they were unfaithful to each other. In contrast, Richard Nixon failed the test of leadership because he was unfaithful to his oath of office and lied to the citizenry. His failures as a leader are in no way mitigated by the doubtlessly reliable accounts that he was faithful to Pat, his wife.

Jimmy Carter was perhaps the most moral of presidents in both private and public life, yet he was not a great president. Although he was as committed as Jefferson and Lincoln to securing the natural rights of all humankind, unlike the Rushmoreans he was ineffective in his pursuit of that end. In short, while morality is a necessary ingredient of leadership, it is not sufficient.

The Rushmorean standard of excellence is the two-fold ability to lead change both morally and effectively. And the gauge of the greatness of leaders is their public record measured over their entire lifetimes. By the absolutist moral standards applied today, the private lives of the four Rushmoreans, if given a thorough airing in the media, would probably not appear sufficiently clean to allow these to hold office. Yet, by standards of public morality, the lives of all four presidents were exemplary. The morality of their leadership was rooted in the goals they pursued and the nature of their relationship with those they served. The Rushmoreans served not to aggrandize their personal power but instead to realize the needs and aspirations of their followers.

What the four Rushmoreans had in common was the practice of values-based
leadership. We find evidence of this in Washington’s Second Inaugural Address, in Jefferson’s Declaration, in Lincoln’s speech at Gettysburg, and in TR’s cornfield oration. Each of these addresses contains valuable clues to the mystery of how flawed humans are able to turn themselves into great leaders. By calling attention to higher-order values, these leaders offered visions of a better world that transcended the pretty differences of their followers.

Jefferson believed that it was the duty of the president “to inform…the legislative judgement.” He sought to mold public opinion by elevating the debates of the day above the petty concerns that divided the Congress. In a State of the Union address, he sought to unite the people’s elected representatives around a vision of the common good, telling them that “[t]he prudence and temperance of your discussions will promote, within your own walls, that conciliations which so much befriends national conclusion; and by its example will encourage among our constituents that progress of opinion which is tending to unite them in object and in will.” That is values-based leadership. And that is why business leaders could do worse than to study the careers of the Rushmoreans.



Tuesday, January 1, 2008

Celebrating in Denver




We celebrated New Years apart - Derek working at the Tavern and me at the Paramount. We were both united in spirit as we served alcohol to our drunk guests. I actually had a pretty good time dancing with my fun guests and enjoying the DJ (especially when he played Sexy Back) however I did miss the fireworks and a New Year kiss from my hubby.

Above are some pictures of our Denver Christmas celebration - nothing too spectacular.

Side note: I think I am truly a Denverite already - I just took the trash out in a tank top and flippies and yes, there is snow on the ground!

There's a Girl My Lord in a Flatbed Ford

Here we are standing on the corner

And here is Derek's girl in a flatbed Ford (I'm the one in the bed - HELLO)

Arizona and Back

We had a great trip to AZ for Christmas. I got in on the 23rd and spent the day with my mom eating lunch and getting our nails did and then Jenna, mom and I saw Enchanted which is very super wonderful. The next day I hung out with my dad some and then had dinner with Mary and my mom. On Christmas we picked up Derek from the airport and we had barbeque at dad's, exchanged gifts and watched the Suns game - of course! Then we celebrated at mom's with Mary and Lynda with a traditional meal and more presents. I forgot to bring my camera over to my dad's when we opened presents there and my mom was sickly so I allowed her to opted out from pictures (which is why neither of my parents our pictured here). We also visited with the Kroll's where we played a rousing game of Balderdash.

We drove back to Denver with new bedroom furniture which was quite the ordeal - I was kinda afraid that Derek was plotting my death in his silence - this was all my idea! We left Gilbert at 10:30 am and arrived home in Denver at 5:30 the following morning - please take into account an hour nap, an hour playing around with the "flatbed Ford" in Winslow, AZ, more then an hour looking for food in Las Vegas, NM (we are writing a letter to the mayor because it was only 9:00 and already EVERY place had stopped serving food, but we could get drinks if we wanted to - we aren't really writing a letter) and another hour dining at Denny's at 2 in the morning. The next morning, just as Derek had forgiven me for making him drive all night so I could have a new bed, I locked us out of our apartment in our pajamas. YIKES! Luckily he really loves me.

Jenna and Trey made most of their gifts this year. They made Derek an engraved guitar strap. It is very impressive. They also made my dad and Jimmy wallets.




Mom usually does a good job picking out clothes for us but..... we weren't really feeling these tops but modeled them anyways. My mom's defense was that Inny and Aunt Cherry were with her when she picked them out!


Brother and Sister!

Derek and Lynda

Mary and Trey

Spur and Jenna - Mia is not pictured here but she is still around and very happy to have Jenna and Trey back. She has already begun losing weight.

Jenna says, "He likes it!"

We were so busy with family and helping mom out with the house that we didn't get to see very many people, but of course we HAD to see our favorite AZ friends: Jackie and Ryan

For Mom....

This is the painting Derek did for his mom for Christmas:

Phil and Eli at Center Hill Lake

And this is me pretending to be Phil so Derek could paint a hat on him. Don't say I didn't help in the creative process!